In retrospect, I moved through the days without intention, without prioritizing what was truly important to me and I wasted time. Time I’ll never get back.
Hi, I’m Kaitlyn Lynch!
I’m a mother of two young girls and a licensed psychotherapist in Connecticut and New York State.
I’m channeling my clinical and life experience into this program for women in early motherhood so we can all be a little more prepared, a little more supported.
I have a private practice in Westport, CT, where I offer treatment for children and adults using a variety of modalities.
In my practice, I’ve encountered women who struggle with the unexpected dynamics of early motherhood and I want to help.
My Motivation
We have more to do and more external influence than we ever have. I want all the mothers—new and expecting—to feel confident, connected and secure in motherhood and their relationships.
We deserve it.
I work with new mothers to help them stay present and intentional, creating the balanced family lifestyle they want amidst social pressures and day-to-day obstacles.
More of the Story
If there’s someone everyone wants to be there for them in life, it’s their mother. We remember everything about our mothers because, in my opinion, they are the most impressionable.
Growing up, my mom had a ditty bag with this flower on it. I remember her as someone who dressed up and wore makeup only on the holidays, and that really was a stretch. But when I found this bag on college break some 20 years ago, I snagged it and put it in my closet.
I recently rediscovered it and have been carrying it with me to work with some extra toiletries. Even though it doesn’t represent her in the traditional way a simple makeup bag might, it reminds me of her. I suppose it represents a lot of what she is not—concerned with what others think. She brings her whole self to the table, as is, and I can’t think of a better model for women today.
I share all of this because our children hold the biggest part of their hearts for us, for mom. How we show up for them, who we are and who we are not is what they remember.
How will your children remember you?
Experience Matters
In retrospect, I moved through the days without intention, without prioritizing what was truly important to me and I wasted time. Time I’ll never get back.
I always dreamt of what motherhood would be like and it is everything and more. But the beginning of it…that’s not what I expected.
My water broke at 37 weeks and after a long 36 hours and 4 hours of sleep, I was having an emergency c-section riddled with complications.
The image I always held of giving birth was blown to pieces. I felt trapped and scared, wondering, what…just…happened? The confidence started chipping away and the second-guessing kicked in.
Having a newborn is the most incredible thing in the world, a love you can’t even describe. And even with that, the experience of the first year is challenging.
In retrospect, I moved through the days without intention, without prioritizing what was truly important to me and I wasted time. Time I’ll never get back.
Together, let’s stay as present as possible while on this incredible journey.
If you need help bringing confidence and calm back into motherhood and your relationships, click here to learn how you can work with me.
Why Work With Me?
“Each new generation of mothers will need searing honesty from their peers — because we can talk about how hard it is all day long, but until the moment new moms are experiencing it, they’re not really listening.”
If you haven’t read the New York Times opinion piece “Early Motherhood Has Always Been Miserable,” by Jessica Grose, you should!
What I love is how it highlights the cultural shift idealizing motherhood over the past several decades while also normalizing the “maternal ambivalence” that many of us experience (and often feel guilty about).
While browsing social media, we see the images of calm mothers doing it all and doing it well. It makes it difficult to anticipate the other part of motherhood, that which is difficult and puts pressure to effortlessly adapt and change to our evolving identity, children and relationships. Social media, in my opinion, is one of the most impactful shifts in motherhood over the last decade and it effects our well-being, challenging our intuition and confidence in decision-making.
The other challenge is, as Grose notes in her piece, no woman knows until they become a mother. Grose writes, “Each new generation of mothers will need searing honesty from their peers — because we can talk about how hard it is all day long, but until the moment new moms are experiencing it, they’re not really listening.”
So, as you read this, how are you preparing? How are you coping if you’re already there? Is it what you expected?
Let me help you navigate the early days of motherhood so you can create the calm you deserve.
I’m ready!
Send an inquiry to learn how the program can help you bring the joy back to motherhood.